ROOT OF CONFLICT

ROOT OF CONFLICT

by Gail Rodgers { http://tmdevotionals.com/women/authors/gail-rodgers/}

Conflict very often arises out of unmet need. Sometimes it's as simple as the unmet need for rest. Things can look different after a good sleep.

Yet often it is deeper. The need to feel valued and heard can result in conflict when we feel tossed aside or not listened to. In our busy lives we sometimes don't take the time to listen to one another even in our own homes. We call to one another through out the house or leave one another standing with half said sentences hanging in the air. Resentment stirs and conflict then erupts over the most trivial thing.

We have a need to feel accepted and respected. The casual sarcasm that exists between loved ones is often hurtful. The quick retorts become commonplace and even humorous to by standers yet they can simmer as a spark for conflict.

Look seriously at the conflicts in your life. Ask God to help you identify the unmet needs that may be at the root. When you feel tension arising that could lead to conflict... stop... and use the opportunity as a tool to build into your own life or pray into another's. Be honest and learn to GROW through conflict.

G -- Give God opportunity to reveal any unmet need that may be at the root of your conflict. Be open to seeing your own need and to praying for the needs of another. It will help dissolve hostility.

R -- Recognize that God is the only One who can meet all of your needs.

O- Open your heart to God for His help. Let Him be the Source you need to meet the empty place in your heart.

W - Walk with someone who will help you pray through the conflict areas in your life.

God promises to be the Source for all of your needs. Believe Him today.

"And my God will meet all your needs according to His glorious riches in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19).

Prayer: Father God, please help me to look at my conflicts with new eyes and to allow You to work in and through me. In Jesus' name I pray, amen.

Questions to Ponder and Discuss: What are some of the obvious needs we all have? What does Scripture tell us about our needs? How do these needs relate to conflict in our relationships?

Related Reading: 7 steps for resolving conflict: http://christianwomentoday.com/womenmen/kassian_conflict.html



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